Epp Kärsin, the expert of pleasure, is not influenced by dominant patterns in society or the opinions of others. She is intuitive, she cares deeply about others, and knows exactly what she wants in her life. Epp has been confidently beating her own life drum since she was young. After the interview, I find myself thinking that this might be the foundation of sustainability for humanity.
As a child, Epp dreamed of becoming an actress. Although she did not make it to the theater stage, today she regularly performs in front of people through sex education training and carries a message of freedom, courage, and discovering one’s true self that drives society forward, ultimately benefiting the global community and our planet in the long run.
You have said that when everything works in bed, other tensions at home decrease as well. Could this be applied also more broadly, such as to saving the planet?
The fundamental nature of human beings is love, but unfortunately, not everyone understands this. People who value and love themselves and are in happy relationships feel lightness. Sexual energy is the most powerful energy, but it is not talked about enough. Every cell in our body is charged with it.
When a person is in touch with their sexual power, they become extremely creative. It is not possible to manipulate them as they perceive and feel their world very deeply. Every sexual experience shared in a beautiful and pure way expands our world of pleasure. It is one of the most powerful experiences energetically.
People perceive sexuality differently, depending on energy, vibrations, mindset, and the level of connection they have with themselves. Many people have never experienced heaven on earth, but when they do, it is complete nirvana. And it exists in every person. However, we often block and limit ourselves, allowing ourselves to be influenced by the opinions of others. Don’t live for others, live for yourself.
A happy romantic relationship affects all areas of life: work relationships, productivity, creativity, freedom, courage, and intuition. When we are in a dysfunctional relationship we cannot fully focus on work. What happens at home runs subconsciously as an undercurrent and affects our surroundings.
There isn’t a single thing in my day that I don’t enjoy doing, nor are there people with whom I don’t want to socialize. Because I have chosen the life I want to experience. To get there, we need to be brave and aware. I don’t care about societal norms. I know that I’m doing the right thing. If I care about myself, then I can also care about others. If I’m dedicated to my own world, then I’m dedicated to others as well. I refuse to live even a day of my life where I have to grit my teeth or wake up in the morning and think, “Oh no, I have to go to work.” Rather, the opposite is true – I need to take time for myself to maintain balance between my courses, family, and home.
Is sex still a taboo and why? How was it for you to grow up in Soviet society?
My parents had a very loving and caring relationship, full of hugs and kisses. We are three siblings and we all got to be part of their happy relationship that was based on love, care and respect. This is the foundation I grew up on. We didn’t have any taboos in our family, even though my mother never said: “let’s talk about sex now”, she was a distributor of books and we had all the sex books of that time at home. I was around 10-11 years old when I read those books and I developed a huge interest in this world. Even more than I had before, as I have been interested in love and relationships between men and women since I was very young.
Very few people have had the sex talk at home. It is actually such an important topic, I do not understand society’s opposition to it. My work has a great impact on different parts of society. By raising awareness, it is possible to prevent sexual abuse and domestic violence early on. It is important to name the genitals with the correct names and teach children to set their boundaries. If a young person does not know how to value themselves, if their boundaries are not in place, if they do not know what is right and wrong, they are at risk. They have been kept in a bubble and they do not know how to protect themselves in dangerous situations.
What will relationships be like in 50 years?
People are more and more comfortable with being themselves. There will be fewer followers, they no longer need a shepherd, and individuality arises. We will understand that we are all unique with unique desires and needs. And, from this, the ability to express oneself develops. Because as long as we think that someone reads us like a clairvoyant, it is not possible to reach the wonderful essence of life. We are not created to be alone; some say they like it, but most still want to share their lives with others. When you are alone, the world is not half as colorful as it is when you can share your emotions with others. Growing together in a relationship is such a beautiful part of life. I would like to hope that in 50 years, people are so self-aware that they are not in dysfunctional relationships where their mental and physical health suffers.
Many young people today have mental health problems. Their parents are broken, their children are broken. If we don’t fix it, it will continue. How emotions affect us, our connection with our feelings, is so important. Yes, we are taught math and physics in school and it is important, but being human… we all seek answers to who we are in life. How easy life becomes when you know who you are. You don’t have to fit in with others, you just have to fit in with yourself.
If people reach that point, will the relationship with nature also improve?
Yes, definitely. I have never stepped on a worm or broken tree branches. We are one with nature; we cannot exist without it. Respect for Mother Earth and nature is so important. I try to live with the smallest footprint possible. But how much do we realize our impact? It all starts at home, with our parents’ attitudes towards our surroundings. In nature, everything is in balance – when humans go beyond the limit, natural disasters follow.
Interviewer: Kerttu Kongas